The holiday scourge
Valentine’s Day is one of the more nationally disliked holidays of the year. Although some couples have reported that this holiday is very relaxing and enjoyable for them, for many others it’s just another source of stress piled on top of their daily lives. For some people, Valentine’s Day is a reminder that they feel alone, or perhaps even unwanted. For those who are single, this holiday is an incredibly harsh reminder of their perceived failure to find a partner. This can be really hard on some – causing feelings of depression, anxiety and isolation.
However, Valentine’s Day can be hard on couples as well. As with any holiday in the modern day, the explicit advertising and holiday buzz littered everywhere during Valentine’s Day can become a major strain for people; for those in a relationship, it sets an expectation of what they must do in order to please their significant others – buying gifts, chocolates,gift baskets; writing love notes; etc.
How to manage the blues
For couples – make sure that you always communicate with each other about your desires and needs. Be open to one another’s needs and limitations: don’t set your expectations high for big gifts if it’s not something that your partner is comfortable doing (or can afford). Always do your best to be clear and compassionate with each other.
As for all you singles out there – if ignoring the holiday doesn’t do you any good, why not embrace it? Perhaps show your parents or siblings some appreciation by getting them some gifts, or simply telling them how much you love and care about them. There are no strict rules on Valentine’s Day – you can celebrate however and whomever you want! However, if this doesn’t help your blues – if, in other words, your depressed and angry feelings carry through long after the holiday has ended – you may have a larger problem with depression, for which you should encourage yourself (and your loved ones) to seek outside help.